Someone is stalking me — following, messaging, showing up — who do I contact?
Stalking is a crime in every EU country and courts issue protection orders — no contact, no approach, no messages — fast. Start a stalking log today: every message, call, appearance, with date and time; keep the messages. Report to Lögreglan — kæra (444 1000) with the log; ask explicitly about a protection order. Bjarkarhlíð — þjónustumiðstöð fyrir þolendur ofbeldis (553 3000) supports you for free and helps with the application. If the stalker is a current or former partner, Kvennaathvarfið — 561 1205 / 112 (561 1205) is the specialised route with shelter and safety planning.
🗣️ What to say
"Since [date] [name / description] has been [following me / contacting me / appearing at my home or work] despite my telling them to stop on [date]. Log and messages attached. I want to report this and apply for a protection order."
🪜 Step by step
- One clear "stop"Once, in writing, kept. After that, no response at all — every reply is a reward.
- Log everythingDate, time, place, what happened, witnesses, screenshots. A log turns "he keeps bothering me" into a case.
- Tell peopleEmployer, neighbours, school — they can refuse the person access and become witnesses.
- Report to Lögreglan — kæraAsk for a protection order. Breaching one is a separate crime with immediate arrest in most countries.
- Support: Bjarkarhlíð — þjónustumiðstöð fyrir þolendur ofbeldisSafety planning, help with the court, and someone who takes it seriously from the first call.
📇 All contacts
❓ Frequently asked
The police say it is "just messages"
Persistent unwanted contact is stalking under the law in every EU country. Bring the log, ask for the report to be registered, and involve Bjarkarhlíð — þjónustumiðstöð fyrir þolendur ofbeldis if you are turned away.
Can I get a protection order without a criminal case?
Yes — civil protection orders exist alongside criminal proceedings and are often faster. Bjarkarhlíð — þjónustumiðstöð fyrir þolendur ofbeldis explains the route in your country.
Tracking devices and spyware
Check the car and bags for trackers; have the phone checked. Finding a device is strong evidence — do not remove it before the police see it.
📎 Sources
- Lögreglan — kæra →
- Bjarkarhlíð — þjónustumiðstöð fyrir þolendur ofbeldis →
- Kvennaathvarfið — 561 1205 / 112 →
- Gjafsókn (dómsmálaráðuneytið) / Lögfræðiaðstoð Orators →
🔎 Common searches
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- “stalking report Iceland”
- “protection order stalker Iceland”
- “ex partner will not stop contacting me”
- “stalking log evidence”
- “victim support stalking”
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